Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How can I ensure my child receives proper Islamic teachings if my ex-spouse’s approach conflicts with my beliefs? Answer Thank you for your question. Co-parenting is not easy, so you should communicate with him/her as much as you can and do your best. Leave the rest to Allah and […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How can I respectfully stop my mother from sharing my personal information with others, especially when she becomes upset or claims authority as my parent? Answer Thank you for your question. You can’t stop her, but you can respectfully ask her to do so, and be patient if she […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How can I be firm yet respectful with my father, who insults my mother and has a history of abuse, while managing my religious OCD and lack of local guidance? Answer Thank you for your question. There is no sin on you to remind him that he may not […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a female and experience a brief pulse or tingle in my private area during wudu, which feels different from arousal. It causes doubts and inconvenience as I often renew wudu. Is this feeling normal or a sign of arousal? Answer Thank you for your question. I suspect […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I married an English convert four years ago, but my mother has struggled to accept the marriage due to cultural differences. While my wife tries to engage, tensions remain, and I now feel overwhelmed by the situation, especially with a child involved. Do you have any advice? Answer Thank […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How can I build respect for my mother despite her being messy and unable to cook? Answer Thank you for your question. The first thing is to change your attitude and realize that you are alive because of her. That should be a sufficient starting point if not enough […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Does the hadith about disobedience to parents preventing entry to paradise also apply to grandparents? My grandmother advised against phone use, saying it could harm my eyes. If I use it with precautions like a blue light filter, is it permissible? If I watch haram content, would it also […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Must one obey their parents in permissible matters, such as wearing makeup at home with no non-Mahram men present, especially if one parent allows it and the other does not? Answer Thank you for your question. The upshot is that it is better for you to listen to the […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it wrong to stay home and focus on recovering from mental health struggles while practicing my faith and doing household tasks, instead of pursuing worldly achievements? What should I do? Answer Thank you for your question. There is nothing wrong with staying home to recover from mental health […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question If I used my parents’ resources, such as internet, electricity, and water, for haram purposes like pornography, do I need to repay them or inform them, or should I conceal my sins and focus on repentance? Answer Thank you for your question. You must cease doing the sin and […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I stole money from my father in the past and deeply regret it. I fear his reaction if I confess and currently cannot repay him as I do not earn. Will Allah forgive me if I die before repaying him, and how can I seek forgiveness for this sin? […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it permissible to attend my wife’s sister’s wedding, which may involve gender mixing, alcohol, and music? We are concerned about family ties and potential strain on our marriage if we don’t attend. They also want our 1-year-old to be the ring bearer. Answer Thank you for your question. […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can you recommend reliable books about Sayyida Khadija and Sayyida Fatima (Allah be well pleased with them)? I’ve found a couple but I want to ensure they are trustworthy. Answer Thank you for your question. May Allah reward you for wanting to learn and emulate these role models from […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Why did Allah show me dreams and signs about someone I prayed for deeply if it wasn’t meant to be? Despite years of heartfelt prayers and seeing positive changes in him, everything ended suddenly, leaving me shattered. How should I understand this and move forward? Answer Thank you for […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How Can I Lower My Gaze as a Deaf Woman? Answer Thank you for your question. In your case, it would be warranted to look at the face of the opposite gender as much as is necessary. In any case, looking at the face of a man without lust […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question If a boy looks at a girl with desire or falls into fitna, is the girl considered sinful for this? Answer Thank you for your question. A girl is not responsible for a boy being sexually tempted when he sees her. Rather, she is responsible for her behaviour, which […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How should I handle a father who dislikes his wife’s family without any clear reason? Answer Thank you for your question. I commend you for your patience and I urge you to continue on that path with gentleness and goodness toward him while being firm with him that he […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question A person is struggling with failure in life, experiencing suicidal thoughts, and the family previously dealt with someone who may have engaged in inappropriate practices. Could this be a curse, and how should it be addressed? Answer Thank you for your question. I urge you not to look at […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’m a 17-year-old girl feeling guilty about my parents funding my university abroad while struggling financially. I plan to get a part-time job to help, but I still feel like a burden. What can I do Islamically to ease this guilt and help my parents? Answer Thank you for […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I was sexually abused as a child by an older cousin. I have been to therapy and trying to work through this; however, I feel so broken and unloved even by Allah; I pray and practice Islam but sometimes feel that I am unworthy of Allah and Islam. Sometimes […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Should I consider divorce so my husband can focus on his struggles, including fragility, depression, and past addiction issues, without further impacting me, or is it better to continue supporting him while he works on improving? Answer Thank you for your question. I empathize with your frustration and I […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My younger brother with ADHD lacks a father figure and struggles with bad influences. He doesn’t pray consistently and associates with negative, harmful company, partly due to being off his medication. If he stays in our home country, he lacks proper treatment; if he returns to the UK, he […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question As an unmarried younger sister, to what extent am I responsible for my mentally unwell elder sister who refuses help and is becoming reclusive? How should I balance my responsibilities toward her, my parents, and my future, including marriage, without feeling overwhelmed? Answer Thank you for your question. I […]

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a born Muslim who strayed and now wants to return to the path of Islam. I have two young boys with a Catholic man, and I lied to my family about him converting and us being married Islamically. After my father’s passing, I am determined to raise […]