Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

August 7, 2025 8 mins

Is It Obligatory to Obey a Narcissistic and Abusive Mother?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Am I obligated to obey a narcissistic mother who mistreats and emotionally harms me, and is it permissible to confront her and speak the truth? Answer Thank you for your question. It is not obligatory to unconditionally obey parents in the first place; it is obligatory to be good […]
August 2, 2025 3 mins

Is It Sinful to Refuse Intimacy with One’s Husband Due to One’s Child’s Di...

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it sinful for a wife to avoid sleeping with her husband without a valid reason, and is it correct to say she will go to Hell for this? What if she avoids him due to her child’s severe emotional distress? Answer Thank you for your question. I empathize […]
August 2, 2025 3 mins

Should I Show Patience or Take Action Against My Disrespectful Roommate?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Should I expose my 70-year-old roommate to my landlord, as I recorded him disrespecting and cursing me, so I can have him removed from the house? Or should I let it go since I’m already moving out in 20 days? Answer Thank you for your question. You should not […]
July 27, 2025 3 mins

Should I Skip My Brother’s Wedding to Stand with My Mother?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Should I attend my brother’s wedding if my mother refuses to go and wants me to stay away out of loyalty to her? Answer Thank you for your question. I don’t know why your mother is upset with your brother but it is haram to let hatred spread within […]
July 9, 2025 4 mins

Am I Sinful for Cutting Off My Abusive Father to Protect My Mother and Me?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My father is cruel, unjust, abusive and a narcissist. He has abused my mother, kicking her out of the house often, swearing, screaming and insulting us daily, took everything from us and threatened us. I didn’t want to live anymore and my mum was dying mentally. Then I moved […]
July 9, 2025 2 mins

How Can I Reconnect with Allah During Hardship and Anxiety?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How can my husband and I reconnect with Allah when facing hardship, anxiety, and spiritual disconnect despite trying to remain steadfast? Answer Thank you for your question. I urge you to reconnect with Allah through abundant du`a, reading and reflection on the Quran, obligatory and tahajjud prayers and learning […]
June 29, 2025 3 mins

Is It Better to Let My Baby Cry So I Can Fulfill My Husband’s Intimacy?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question If caring for a newborn makes it difficult to fulfill my husband’s intimate needs, is it more virtuous to let the baby cry briefly to meet his needs? Would it have been better to delay having children in such a case? Answer Thank you for your question. We don’t […]
June 29, 2025 3 mins

Should I Warn People That My Father Takes Their Money for Scams?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question If my father repeatedly borrows money for a scam, am I responsible for warning others to prevent harm, even if it angers him? Must I give him money when he asks, and am I responsible for paying his debts in the future? Answer Thank you for your question. Yes, […]
June 29, 2025 3 mins

Should I Approach Marriage While I’m Still an Unemployed Student?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question As an unemployed student considering early marriage for the sake of Allah, what is the best way to approach someone respectfully while balancing deen, responsibility, and family involvement? Answer Thank you for your question. Your sincerity, maturity, and desire to marry a religious girl are all praiseworthy, Masha’Allah. Marriage […]
June 29, 2025 2 mins

How Can I Be Close to My Adopted Father Since I Was Not Breastfed?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question As a convert who was adopted and not breastfed, how can I maintain a close relationship with my adopted father in a way that is permissible in Islam? Answer Thank you for your question. I commend you for seeking to uphold both your Islam and your relationship with your […]
June 9, 2025 2 mins

How Can I Deal with the Sadness over a Close Friend Engaging in Sin?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How can I deal with sadness and anxiety over a close friend engaging in sinful behaviour despite my advice? Answer Thank you for your question. Your feeling of sadness and concern for a friend is a sign that your friendship is for the sake of Allah, and I ask […]
June 7, 2025 2 mins

How Should I Deal with a Non-Muslim Friend Who Insults Islam?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How should I deal with a non-Muslim friend who unintentionally says offensive things about Islam, even though she apologizes and is generally respectful? Answer Thank you for your question. You should tell her to stop, and if she doesn’t, you should distance yourself from her, as she doesn’t seem […]
June 7, 2025 3 mins

How Can I Lower My Gaze Naturally When I Speak to Women?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it permissible to briefly extend the first glance to ease anxiety from OCD, and could you provide step-by-step guidance on how to lower the gaze naturally when encountering women? Answer Thank you for your question. It is not permissible to extend the first glance, but perhaps you can […]
June 7, 2025 4 mins

How Can I Find My Way Back to Allah When I Have Hit Rock Bottom?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I have fallen into persistent sin after struggling with waswasa and depression. I feel distant from Allah, hopeless, and overwhelmed by failure in both deen and dunya. How can I find a way back to Allah when I feel like I have completely failed? Answer Thank you for your […]
June 7, 2025 2 mins

Is It Sinful to Neglect Foreplay and Cause Pain to the Wife?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question If a husband neglects foreplay, causing pain or harm to his wife, is he sinful? Would the wife be sinful for resisting if intercourse is painful? Answer Thank you for your question. Yes, it is potentially sinful to harm the wife in this way, and it goes against the […]
June 1, 2025 3 mins

Can I Still Marry My Boyfriend Despite Hurting Him?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question After committing mistakes in a relationship, I regret my actions and seek to change and follow Islam properly. Can I still hope to marry the person, and what is the right way forward? Answer Thank you for your question. Yes, you can still hope to marry him. Your priority […]
June 1, 2025 2 mins

Should I Retest for STDs Since There Were Slight Complications During the Test?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question After repenting from minor zina and testing negative for STDs, should I have tawakkul despite slight testing imperfections, or should I retest out of caution? Answer Thank you for your question. Zina is not minor; sexual intercourse outside marriage is an enormity and requires sincere repentance. Would you like […]
June 1, 2025 2 mins

Do I Need to Purify Items Touched After Using Wet Wipes in the Bathroom?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question If I used wet wipes to clean menstrual impurities during a water outage and then touched various items with damp hands, do I have to wash everything I touched? Answer Thank you for your question. If you used wet wipes to clean yourself, you don’t need to purify anything […]
June 1, 2025 4 mins

Should I Contact Relatives Who Have Cut Off My Mother?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Am I obligated to reach out to relatives after a family dispute I wasn’t involved in, if doing so may cause further conflict with my immediate family? Answer Thank you for your question. You are obliged to maintain kinship ties with your relatives and, if possible, help the two […]
June 1, 2025 2 mins

Can I Make Dua for More Space Between My Eyes or Is It Transgression?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it permissible to make dua for changes in physical features, like eye spacing or nose shape, or is that considered transgressing in prayer? Answer Thank you for your question. Yes, you can make such a dua, and it is not transgression. Dua You must accompany it by asking […]
June 1, 2025 3 mins

How Should I Treat My Daughter Who Lives with a Non-Muslim Man and Is Pregnant?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How should parents deal with an adult daughter living independently, in a relationship with a non-Muslim, and distant from Islam? How should they treat her and her future child? Answer Thank you for your question. I empathize with your pain and advise you to be loving and patient, and […]
June 1, 2025 3 mins

Should I Agree to My Husband Marrying Another Wife to Solve His Porn Addiction?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can my husband’s desire to marry a second wife be a valid way to overcome his pornography addiction, especially if he cannot financially support another marriage, and it did not help when he married me? Answer Thank you for your question. Getting married to a second wife does not […]
June 1, 2025 4 mins

How Should I Be a Good Daughter to an Abusive Father?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My father is emotionally abusive and neglectful despite efforts from my mother and even a scholar’s intervention. He threatens us, shows no concern for our needs, and leaves all responsibility on my mother. What should I do to move forward while fulfilling my duties in Islam? Answer Thank you […]
May 29, 2025 3 mins

How Do I Respond to In-Laws Who Criticize My Social and Domestic Skills?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Despite my efforts, my in-laws are unhappy with my social and household skills. They see my need for alone time as laziness, and their comments have hurt me. How should I respond to this situation? Answer Thank you for your question. The best way to respond to anyone criticizing […]
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