Is It Disbelief If I Sit More Respectfully at the Prophet’s Name Than I Do During Dhikr?
Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Question
My legs are sometimes apart while I do the remembrance of Allah (dhikr) and I close them when I hear the name of the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace), so I fear I hold the Messenger in higher respect than Allah and have fallen into disbelief; then, to undo it, I deliberately spread my legs and said the blessings on the Prophet (salawat), and now I fear I have disrespected him.
Answer
May Allah reward you for bringing this fear into the light instead of carrying it alone.
You have been measuring your faith with your knees, and it has frightened you badly. A movement your body makes on its own carries no ruling at all. None of this is disbelief, and none of it is associating others with Allah (shirk). Nothing here comes near either. Your legs are not where your faith is kept. Faith is assent, something a person gives with his own will. [Taftazani, Sharh al-Maqasid 2:251]
What you are living with has a name: intrusive religious doubt (waswasa). It is a known condition, a symptom to be treated rather than a question of law to be answered.
Let me take that scale apart. You put Allah at one end and His Messenger (Allah bless him and give him peace) at the other, made your knees the needle, and read off a verdict on your own faith. Loving and honoring him is commanded, and he asked that love of us. [Mishkat al-Masabih] It does not compete with the love of Allah. Honor shown to him is honor to the One who sent him, and it comes out of nobody’s share.
“Whoever obeys the Messenger has obeyed Allah.” [Quran 4:80; Keller, The Quran Beheld] Your body sitting up at his name is a sign of a sound heart, not a defect in it, and the same holds when the Companions (Allah be pleased with them) are mentioned.
Your second question, about spreading your legs on purpose, has the same answer. You were not making light of anything. You were trying to repair an offense you had convicted yourself of on no evidence.
Your Faith Sits in Your Assent, Not in Your Legs
Stop auditing your posture. Sit however you are sitting, and when the urge comes to fix it, or to fix the fix, let it pass unobeyed and carry on with your remembrance. An urge like this weakens when ignored and grows when answered. Keep sitting up at his blessed name if you like, as good manners (adab), never again as a measurement. Devise no more penances. The penance is what turned one fear into two.
Stop reading about disbelief and takfir; every search feeds the compulsion, and you do not need another ruling. Find a teacher you can sit with and be known by, and see a doctor about it. That is care for yourself, not a debt you owe Allah.
Hold on to one line from Ibn Abidin (Allah have mercy on him): “Islam once established is not lifted by doubt.” [Ibn Abidin, Radd al-Muhtar 4:224] Your faith stands as you read this. That this frightens you at all tells you where your heart already is. A man careless of his Lord does not lie awake fearing he has slighted Him.
And Allah knows best.
Faraz Rabbani
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