Supplication to Find Someone to Marry
Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad
Question: I love someone a lot and I want to marry him. At first, he said he wanted to marry me, too, but later, during an argument, he said he is not interested at all. Please can you give me a Supplication [du’a] that can help this marriage happen and that softens his heart toward me?
Answer: Assalamu alaykum sister,
I pray that you have success in your life and marry the right man for you. I know this must be very difficult for you, getting in an argument and hearing big proclamations is not easy.
Limits
First, sister, I would recommend that you remain within the limits that Allah has set for you. You say you love him but are not yet married to him. Please refrain from being alone with him or uncovering in front of him. Please lower your gaze with him, be sure not to make physical contact and your interaction should be restricted to a need-basis only. I don’t want you to get more attached to him and then it doesn’t end up working out.
Trust (Tawakkul)
Rely on Allah regarding this matter. Pray the prayer of need and ask Allah to help you. If this really is the right person, ask that Allah manifest this to you. If he isn’t, ask that Allah make it plain to you. This link will show you how to pray it: How Does One Perform The Prayer Of Need (salat al-haja)?
Du’a
The best du’a for a Muslim is a du’a from the desperate heart. Bless the Prophet, may Allah bless him and give him peace, ask forgiveness for your sins, thank Him for the countless blessings, and then supplicate from your heart. Then end off with blessing the Prophet again, may Allah bless him and give him peace.
In addition to this, some supplications from our Holy book come to mind:
“Our Lord! We have wronged ourselves. If You forgive us not, and bestow not upon us Your mercy, we shall certainly be of the losers. [Qur`an, 7:23]
Oh my Lord! I am indeed needy of whatever good you may send to me. [Qur’an 28:24]
Also please go through these excellent articles that comprises all you need to know for a successful marriage, in sha Allah: Love, Marriage and Relationships in Islam: All Your Questions Answered
May Allah give you the best in this world and the next.
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.
