I’ve Fallen in Love for a Girl and How Should I Proceed Islamically to Get Married?

Answered by Shaykh Farid Dingle

Question

I’ve fallen for a girl that I’ve known for a long time. How should I proceed Islamically given that I am not currently in a position to get married?

Answer

Falling in love is perfectly normal and halal. Before contacting her directly, you should have someone else run the idea past her, and then have the family talk. It is not a good idea to increase heartache by jumping into something that may not work out as you wish.

Baraka comes with things done purely for the sake of Allah. As much as you can, turn away from the girl in your heart and turn it solely to Allah. Seek that He be content with you, and you will find everything facilitated for you.

“Keep to what Allah wants from you, and He will look out for you. Keep to what Allah wants from you, and you will find Him in front of you.” [Tirmidhi; others]

Please see:

Etiquette of Marriage: A Comprehensive SeekersHub Reader
Talk about Islam with Shaykh Hamza Karamali (Episode 3) – What is True Love?

I pray this helps.

[Ustadh] Farid Dingle
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadh Farid Dingle has completed extensive years of study in the sciences of the Arabic language and the various Islamic Sciences. During his studies, he also earned a CIFE Certificate in Islamic Finance. Over the years he has developed a masterful ability to craft lessons that help non-Arabic speakers gain a deep understanding of the language. He currently teaches courses in the Arabic Language