Question: I read about hurmat musahara. Now I need clarification. If you touch your mother with lust, her marriage will break. But does this also count if you have a lust for someone else whilst you are touching here? Or if you get a random erection (which may happen any time without any certain reason) whilst you contact here? But it is not due to here? I never would think of my mother this way; it’s literally disgusting for me to even think about it. But since I read this, I got waswasa about it.
In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful,
Assalam’aleykum, I pray this finds you in the best of states.
No, in the scenario you have described, your mother’s marriage won’t be broken, even according to the Hanafi school. [Lubab]
Hanafi jurists define the lust you have talked about as getting an erection because of the touching or, if an erection was already there, as having an increase of this erection. [Lubab]
None of this is present in your description. Lust as a feeling is not considered except for impotent or very old men. [Lubab]
More details on this ruling
Hurmat al-musahara is the non-marriageable kinship (mahramiya) created between a person and his spouse’s relatives due to marriage and valid intercourse. Thus, a man who marries a woman and consummates the marriage cannot marry her mother or any daughter from a previous marriage. Similarly, a person cannot marry the wife of his father. The Qur’anic verse affirming the basic idea of hurmat al-musahara is, “Do not marry those [women] whom your fathers married.” (Sura al-Nisa 4:22)
And Allah knows best.
[Ustadh] Sufyan Qufi