How Can I, as a Man, Make Peace with the Temptation of Women Innate Inside of Me?

In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate

I pray you are in good faith and health. Thank you for your question.

Allah Most High created men and women in different ways. Features appeal to men; words appeal to women. This is Allah’s creation, His wisdom; it had to be something. Humans cannot grasp the wisdom of every action and creation of Allah Most High.

Usama bin Zaid (Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “After me, I have not left any trial (fitna) more severe to men than women.” [Bukhari]

Life is a test, and one of the biggest tests for men is women. This is how it is. We must navigate this test through mindfulness (taqwa) and patience and pass it through by following Allah’s commands and beautiful guiding teachings of our Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace), His companions, and those who have followed them.

Allah Most High said, “We have made some of you a trial for others. Will you not then be patient? And your Lord is All-Seeing.” [Quran, 25:20]

Men need to lower their gaze, more so as well as women, and observe their modesty. We are simply meant to help one another, not destroy one another.

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I pray this helps with your question.

Wassalam,

[Mawlana] Ilyas Patel

Mawlana Ilyas Patel is a traditionally trained scholar who has studied in the UK, India, Pakistan, Syria, Jordan, and Turkey.

He started his early education in the UK. He went on to complete hifz of the Quran in India, then enrolled into an Islamic seminary in the UK, where he studied the secular and Alimiyyah sciences. He then travelled to Karachi, Pakistan.

He has been an Imam in Rep of Ireland for a number of years. He has taught hifz of the Qur’an, Tajwid, Fiqh, and many other Islamic sciences to both children and adults onsite and online extensively in UK and Ireland. He taught at a local Islamic seminary for 12 years in the UK, where he was a librarian and a teacher of Islamic sciences.

He currently resides in the UK with his wife. His personal interest is the love of books and gardening.