Is Oral Sex Permissible When Fasting?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question

I fast and my wife doesn’t.

Is she allowed to perform oral sex on me? Are we allowed to have sex?

Answer

No, it would appear to be at least blameworthy and disliked for your non-fasting wife to perform oral sex on you during your fast. (Also be aware that such bedroom behaviour should be undertaken with full consent from both spouses.)

This is on the condition that you are reasonably confident that (1) you will not ejaculate, and (2) she will not swallow any filthy substance. Otherwise, it would be impermissible to engage in such behavior, especially given the fact that we are striving to withhold our sexual impulses during these blessed days.

The reason for this is that ejaculation accompanied by actual intimacy with the spouse, such as kissing or touching, breaks the fast. This is contrary to ejaculation by mere looking or thinking which doesn’t resemble intercourse in any manner.

But actual sexual intercourse is prohibited and a major sin for fasting persons during the fasting hours, so you need to be very careful about this. [Shurunbulali, Maraqi al-Falah with Tahtawi’s Gloss]

Please also see:
The Complete Guide to Fasting and When Is Expiation Required For A Fast?

And Allah Most High alone knows best.

wassalam,
[Ustadh] Tabraze Azam
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadh Tabraze Azam holds a BSc in Computer Science from the University of Leicester, where he also served as the President of the Islamic Society. He memorised the entire Qur’an in his hometown of Ipswich at the tender age of sixteen, and has since studied the Islamic Sciences in traditional settings in the UK, Jordan and Turkey. He is currently pursuing advanced studies in Jordan, where he is presently based with his family.