I’m in Love With a Hindu Man

Answered by Ustadha Zaynab Ansari

Question: I’m in love with a Hindu guy. I didn’t plan this, it just happened. Our love is very strong.  Is there anyway I can be with him, or a du’a to make this happen?

Answer: In the Name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful.

Dear Sister,

Allah Most High says, “Lo! thou (O Muhammad) guidest not whom thou lovest, but Allah guideth whom He will. And He is best aware of those who walk aright.”

It is up to Allah if this young man enters the fold of Islam or not. As difficult as this is, it is best to separate yourself from the situation so you can look at it with a clear head. You want to choose a husband who can be the head of your household and help you raise Muslim children. You have to also consider the family dynamics, how his family would handle a marriage, how your family would react, etc.

If you feel strongly this is the person for you, then you should ask him to visit the local masjid and say his shahada and learn about Islam. Perhaps at that point, he can meet your family.

Please keep in mind that I can’t tell you exactly what to do given the fact that I am not from your cultural context. However, I have seen many examples of successful marriage where a Muslim woman gave a non-Muslim man da’wah and he accepted Islam.

Ask Allah to give you what is best for your deen and dunya and try to accept His decree.

Regards,

Zaynab Ansari