Is it Permissible to Refrain From Having a Wedding in Muharram?
Question Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate
It is your discretion to choose to have your wedding at any time.
With regards to the tragic event of Karbala, the scholars have viewed the event with a particular lens. They looked at the event out of (a) contentment for the decree of Allah and (b) witnessing Allah’s bestowal of the great blessing of martyrdom upon them.
Furthermore, they understood that the greatest way to honor Imam Husayn (Allah be pleased with him) and the Prophetic household is it uphold the way of their Grandfather: the Prophet Muhammad (may Allah bless him and give him peace).
It is from the sunna of the Prophet (may Allah bless him and give him peace) to hasten the marriage when a suitor is found.
Hastening the Marriage
The Messenger of Allah (may Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Three things, there is no delay therein: the burial when there is someone to carry the bier, a marriage when a suitor is found, and hosting a guest when they arrive…” [Bayhaqi]
Scholarly Statements Regarding Marriage in Muharram
Imam al-Qurtubi (Allah have mercy on him)
“Likewise, the ignorant of the day have deemed reprehensible marriage in the month of Muharram. Rather, one should seek fortune through marriage and consummation in this month, holding fast to that which Allah and His Messenger (may Allah bless him and give him peace) have honored of its sanctity; and as a rebuke of the ignorant.” [al-Qurtubi, al-Mufhim]
Hope this helps
Allah knows best
[Shaykh] Yusuf Weltch
Shaykh Yusuf Weltch is a teacher of Arabic, Islamic law, and spirituality. After accepting Islam in 2008, he then completed four years at the Darul Uloom seminary in New York, where he studied Arabic and the traditional sciences. He then traveled to Tarim, Yemen, where he stayed for three years studying in Dar Al-Mustafa under some of the greatest scholars of our time, including Habib Umar Bin Hafiz, Habib Kadhim al-Saqqaf, and Shaykh Umar al-Khatib. In Tarim, Shaykh Yusuf completed the memorization of the Quran and studied beliefs, legal methodology, hadith methodology, Quranic exegesis, Islamic history, and a number of texts on spirituality. He joined the SeekersGuidance faculty in the summer of 2019.
