Should I Befriend People That I Am Drawn To?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

Question

I’m a socially awkward and introverted person, but I try my best to socialize. I’m always drawn to certain people because of their good character. Is it Allah that has placed the love of these people in my heart, and should I keep attempting to befriend them, or is it unrelated because I always get too attached to people? So, if I feel a connection with certain people, how can I tell if it’s Allah or if it’s just me?

Answer

Thank you for your question. May Allah reward you for wanting to be around people who bring out the best in you; follow your instinct in befriending those with good character.

Don’t Overthink It

The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “A person’s religious life is only as good as that of his friend, so let one of you consider well whom he befriends.” [Tirmidhi] Don’t worry about where the desire for your friendship is coming from. Look at the qualities of a true friend, find people that have them, and befriend them, seeking the pleasure of Allah and the betterment of your religion.

Please see those details here:

• Perfect Mercy – The Prophet as a Friend
• What Are the Qualities of a Friend?
• Duties of Brotherhood – 3: Rights of Friendship

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria, for two years, where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin and completed her Master’s in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan, where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.