Are In-Laws Allowed to Interfere in Intimate Matters and Rule the Life of a Couple ?

Hanafi Fiqh

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question: As salam alaykum,

Does a cancelation of a religious marriage exist ?

Is it Islamic to force the bride to consume the marriage and disclose the matter to his family?

Are muslims allowed to interfere in intimate matters and rule the life of the couple ?

Are in-laws and the husband allowed to threathen the wife to divorce her if the mariage is not consumed rapidly?

Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

I pray this message finds you well, insha’Allah.

The matters you mention are not “Islamic.” Details of your private life should remain private. The new couple need to be sensitive of each other’s emotions and act in a way that will encourage the formation of a strong relationship. I’d suggest contacting a local reliable scholar to assist in the specifics of your situation.

Pray the Prayer of Need (salat al-hajah), and ask Allah Most High to grant you facilitation and a way out. [see: How Does One Perform The Prayer Of Need (salat al-haja)?]

This book may be a useful read: Six in the Bed, by Nancy Wasserman.

Please also see: In-Laws Leaving Me No Privacy: What is the Proper Response? and: A Wife’s Right to Housing Seperate From Her In-Laws

And consider taking the following free class: Islamic Marriage: Guidance for Successful Marriage and Married Life

And Allah knows best.


Tabraze Azam

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani