Answered by Mawlana Ilyas Patel
Can I divorce my second wife due to recurrent personal issues?
In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate
I pray you are well. Thank you for your question.
It is a challenging and emotional situation you are all in. You will have a deeper look into the position long term. Sit down with your first wife, then second. Consult reliable local scholars and sincere friends about the whole situation.
If you are fulfilling both your wives’ rights and intend to keep it working, then try to sit down with the second wife’s family. Speak to them with calmness and wisdom, and take a reliable local scholar with you, give them reassurance that you will fulfill your duties, and apologize to them about the past that you went about it in the wrong way. They have every right to be angry, so you must accept it.
There are two long-term situations. Either you all work together, allow the marriages to work, and come to a settled agreement or depart amicably, without any bitter outcome.
Allah Most High says when Quran directs us about divorce, it guides us a wife should either be retained with honor or separated with grace.
“The divorce that can be returned from may be pronounced up to two times, then either honorably retaining her, or kindly letting her go.” [Quran, 2:229]
Allah Most High, guide you and the families and destine what is suitable for all concerned. I sincerely pray that an amicable outcome takes place for all concerned.
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I pray this helps with your question.
[Mawlana] Ilyas Patel
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Mawlana Ilyas Patel is a traditionally-trained scholar who has studied within UK, India, Pakistan, Syria, Jordan and Turkey.
He started his early education in UK. He went onto complete hifz of Qur’an in India, then enrolled into an Islamic seminary in UK where he studied the secular and Alimiyyah sciences. He then travelled to Karachi, Pakistan.
He has been an Imam in Rep of Ireland for a number of years. He has taught hifz of the Qur’an, Tajwid, Fiqh and many other Islamic sciences to both children and adults onsite and online extensively in UK and Ireland. He was teaching at a local Islamic seminary for 12 years in the UK where he was a librarian and a teacher of Islamic sciences.
He currently resides in UK with his wife. His personal interest is love of books and gardening.