Answered by Mawlana Ilyas Patel
I am a male and had sexual contact with my male gym trainer. We were naked, hugged, licked, kissed, etc., and gave each other oral pleasure. There was no intercourse, only oral and foreplay. Is this a lesser sin than sodomy? I am very ashamed of my act. I hope it is less than actual sodomy. What do I do?
In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate
I pray you are in good faith and health. Thank you for your question. Allah Most High reward you for admitting your mistakes and regret committing a sin. Allah is the Best to forgive those who want to be forgiven, and He is the Best to accept repentance for those who want to repent.
Just Sincerely Ask Forgiveness and Repent
Ask for forgiveness and make tawba. You just have to utter some form of Istighfar (Astaghfirullah) and mean it. Most importantly, pray two rakats of Salat al-tawba. You must also regret the sin and intend never to repeat it. See the links below for more information about Repentance (tawba).
I would like you to go through the valuable answers and links below. You will receive guidance and direction in sha Allah.
- What Are the Conditions of Making Tawba?
- A Reader on Tawba (Repentance)
- Purification of the Heart for Youth: Diseases of the Heart and Their Cure – YouTube
- The Path of Muhammad: Birgivi’s Manual of Taqwa Explained – YouTube
- Purification of the Heart: Signs, Symptoms, and Cures of the Spiritual Diseases of the Heart: Hamza Yusuf (Book)
- Prayer of Repentance: Salat al-Tawba – SeekersGuidance
[Mawlana] Ilyas Patel
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Mawlana Ilyas Patel is a traditionally-trained scholar who has studied in the UK, India, Pakistan, Syria, Jordan, and Turkey. He started his early education in the UK. He went on to complete the hifz of the Quran in India, then enrolled in an Islamic seminary in the UK, where he studied the secular and ‘Aalimiyya sciences. He then traveled to Karachi, Pakistan. He has been an Imam in Rep of Ireland for several years. He has taught hifz of the Quran, Tajwid, Fiqh, and many other Islamic sciences to children and adults onsite and online extensively in the UK and Ireland. He taught at a local Islamic seminary for 12 years in the UK, where he was a librarian and a teacher of Islamic sciences. He currently resides in the UK with his wife. His interest is a love of books and gardening.