Can I Not Perform Any Prayers If I Am in a Relationship with a Man?

Answered by Mawlana Ilyas Patel


I lost my mum last year, and I got into a relationship with a non-Muslim man, but he later converted. We got closer and ended up having sexual connections, including intercourse.

Later, he changed his mind and told me he was no longer a Muslim and left but came back and told me that he still wanted to be with me, and the relationship continued.

I talked to my sister about it, and she told me the dangers of my actions, including that I have to take tahara and am not allowed to pray for 40 days, which is hard for me to pass a day without praying. Please tell me more about it. Should I pray, and how should I repent? What do you think I should do?


In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate

I pray you are well. Thank you for seeking guidance.

Yes, you can perform your daily prayers and all other acts of worship. There are two rights, the rights of Allah Most High and the rights of fellow human beings. One has to continue performing them; falling into sin does not stop or should not stop one from continuing with our daily personal worship.

You need to study and learn aspects of faith, purity, prayer, and spiritual excellence. Do not ever despair; Allah’s mercy is ever present, especially if one truly repents. He is the only One who can forgive us for the wrong we willingly commit. He is oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

Allah says in the Quran: “Say, (O Prophet) O My servants who have exceeded the limits against their souls! Do not lose hope in Allah’s mercy, for Allah certainly forgives all sins.1 He is indeed the All-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” [Quran, 39:53]

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May Allah (Most High) give you ease and relief from the illness.

I pray this helps with your question.
[Mawlana] Ilyas Patel
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Mawlana Ilyas Patel is a traditionally-trained scholar who has studied in the UK, India, Pakistan, Syria, Jordan, and Turkey. He started his early education in the UK. He went on to complete the hifz of the Quran in India, then enrolled in an Islamic seminary in the UK, where he studied the secular and ‘Aalimiyya sciences. He then traveled to Karachi, Pakistan. He has been an Imam in Rep of Ireland for several years. He has taught hifz of the Quran, Tajwid, Fiqh, and many other Islamic sciences to children and adults onsite and online extensively in the UK and Ireland. He taught at a local Islamic seminary for 12 years in the UK, where he was a librarian and a teacher of Islamic sciences. He currently resides in the UK with his wife. His interest is a love of books and gardening.