If a Parent Prays Both for and against Their Child, Which Is Accepted?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad


If a parent curses their child and later makes dua for them, which dua is accepted by Allah? Is the dua stronger than the curse?


Thank you for your question. A parent should not be quick to pray against one’s child as that prayer may be accepted.


It is Allah’s choice on which dua to accept, and one cannot say the outcome. Instead of getting anxious and worried about it, one should calmly continue to strive for knowledge and goodness, fulfill the rights of others and turn to Allah for all their needs.

Best Dua for Forgiveness

I recommend that you say the dua of Sayyid al-Istighfar (Superior dua for asking forgiveness):

”اللَّهُمَّ أَنْتَ رَبِّي لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ خَلَقْتَنِي وَأَنَا عَبْدُكَ وَأَنَا عَلَى عَهْدِكَ وَوَعْدِكَ مَا اسْتَطَعْتُ أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا صَنَعْتُ أَبُوءُ لَكَ بِنِعْمَتِكَ عَلَيَّ وَأَبُوءُ لَكَ بِذَنْبِي فَاغْفِرْ لِي فَإِنَّهُ لَا يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ.“

“O Allah, You are my Lord. There is no god besides You. You created me, and I am Your servant, following your covenant and [my] promise to you as much as I can. I seek refuge in You from the evil that I have done. Before You, I acknowledge Your blessings bestowed upon me, and I confess my sins to You. So forgive me, for surely no one can forgive sins except You.”

The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) then added, ‘anyone who says this during the day, firmly believing in it, and dies before the evening; or says it in the evening, firmly believing in it, and dies before the following morning, will be among the people of Paradise.’ [Nasa’i]

Please see these more details here:
My Mother Makes Supplications Against Me. Will Her Duas Be Accepted?
The Powerful Dua of a Parent

May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria, for two years, where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin and completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan, where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.