Ramadan

Can I Pay an Expiation for the Missed Fasts of My Dead Aunt?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

Question

I cannot get over the abuse and mistreatment from my father and his sister towards me and my mother and brother. Although my aunt died suddenly, I never asked for her forgiveness and can’t get over that. Can I pay an expiation for her missed fasts?

Answer

Sister, I remember answering your question two weeks ago, and I empathize with you. You are still in so much pain.

To answer your question, yes, you can pay fidya (expiation) for your aunt’s missed fasts, which will be a great way to make you feel better about your relationship with her.

See this link:
How To Make Expiatory Payments To Compensate for Missed Obligatory Fasts or Prayers of a Deceased Muslim?

I still feel that you treated her well, but you can always ask Allah for forgiveness for a sin you may have committed but didn’t know about. Please focus on helping your brother and admitting him to the right place for the care and treatment he needs. I fear that you cannot keep carrying on this burden on your own. I feel your parents are not helping you, so only take what you can and don’t run yourself into the ground.

May Allah relieve you of these difficulties and help you forgive yourself and everyone else around you. Turn to Allah, for he gives success to whomever He wills.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqida, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.