How to Convince My Husband to Move Us out of His Parent’s House?

Thank you for your question. May Allah reward you for all of the suffering that you had to endure and for wanting to stay in this marriage

Your obligation is to protect your mental health, and your family unit, not be a slave to your in-laws. Please see your rights in Islam to separate housing below. Inform your husband that he is sinning by not providing your rights and he should fear Allah Most High regarding this:

A Wife’s Right to Housing Separate From Her In-Laws.

Realistically, you can move out if you are able to convince your husband or find ways to assert yourself, set boundaries not set by culture, and learn better ways to cope with your living situation. If moving out is not an option for now, then you must strive, research and consult others on finding ways to cope better with your current living situation. Also, take time for self-care and ignore criticism. It is impossible to keep them happy so at least take care of yourself.

Try these resources for coping with the in-laws:

Turn to Allah

Please perform The Prayer of Need before dawn as much as you can, asking Allah to fulfill your need. Strength, patience and du`a are key. Nothing will help you more than praying on time, staying away from the haram and giving a little charity regularly. Thank Allah for your blessings each night and by His grace, He will increase you. Read and listen to Quran daily and know that your du`a is heard.

The Prophet, Allah bless him and give him peace, said, “There are three whose supplication is not rejected: The fasting person when he breaks his fast, the just leader, and the supplication of the oppressed person; Allah raises it up above the clouds and opens the gates of heaven to it. And the Lord says: ‘By My might, I shall surely aid you, even if it should be after a while.’” [Tirmidhi]

Please see these links as well:

Living With Disrespectful and Overbearing In-Laws
Do I Have the Right to Demand From My Husband to Not Live With My In-Laws?

May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.
[Ustada]Shazia Ahmad

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqida, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.