I Don’t Want My Husband’s Friend to Die as a Non-Muslim. What Can We Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Question: My husband has a non-Muslim friend. He doesn’t want her to die as a non-Muslim and suffer in Hellfire. She is already going through a lot of troubles so my husband feels that it is unfair that she will have to go to Hell. He wants her to accept Islam. Is there anything we can do for this?

Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you and your husband for your sincere concern.


“Surely you do not guide whomever you love, but Allah guides whomever He decides, and He knows best the ones (who are) rightly-guided.” [Qur’an, 28:56]

It is praiseworthy to want your husband’s non-Muslim friend to embrace Islam. There is no greater good in this life or the next.

Regularly perform the Prayer of Need in the last third of the night and beg Allah to guide her, and to ease her hardship.

Treat her with compassion and patience. Do what you can to lift her suffering in this life by being of service to her. Connect her with righteous people of good character, who will inspire her to see the good of Islam. Please still keep in mind that guidance is not in your hands, and it is a gift from Allah.

Hope and Patience

It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allah (upon him be blessings and peace) said: “It is necessary that you do not become hasty.” It was said: “What does being hasty mean, O Messenger of Allah?” He said: “When one says: ‘I supplicated to Allah but Allah did not answer me.'” [Sunan Ibn Majah]

Have hope that Allah will answer your duas in the best way possible. Don’t be impatient, especially if you continue to see her struggle with her family problems. One of my teachers shared that Allah took forty years to answer the dua of one of His Prophets (upon him be peace), and they were the best of people.


Abu Hurairah narrated that the Messenger of Allah (upon him be blessings and peace) said: “Allah created a hundred mercies, and He placed one mercy among his creation, they show mercy to one another by it, and there are ninety-nine mercies with Allah.” [Tirmidhi]

Only Allah knows the ultimate fate of each person. Trust in His Wisdom, Mercy and Justice.

Please refer to the following links:

Positive Spiritual Thinking: Choosing Mindfulness (taqwa) and Embracing Trust (tawakkul) by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
A Reader on Patience and Reliance on Allah
Suffering and Divine Wisdom


Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani.

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