Cultivating Patience Through Your Small Children

If I am Patient, Will I Get a ‘Good’ Spouse?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question: My question is about getting married in the future.

If I pray and have patience will I get a good spouse in the future, or should I start looking for someone who is religious and tell her to wait until it is the right time to marry? If I stay patient, will I get a nice, virtuous, and good looking wife?

Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray that you are in the best of health and faith, insha’Allah.

The sunna is to take the strongest and most effective of means whilst relying wholeheartedly upon Allah. And patience is remaining steadfast on what is pleasing to Allah.

Focus on becoming somebody of taqwa, righteousness, and excellent character. The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “The believers most perfect in faith are those most excellent in character.” And Allah Most High says, “Corrupt women are for corrupt men, and corrupt men are for corrupt women; good women are for good men and good men are for good women.” [24.26]

Allah Most High says, “And whoever is mindful of Allah, He will grant them a way out, and will provide for them in ways unimagined. And whoever places their trust in Allah, then Allah is their sufficiency. Allah’s affair will surely come to pass–and Allah has made a clear decree for everything.” [Qur’an, 65. 2-3]

See also: The Intentions of Marriage and: A Reader on Patience and Reliance on Allah.

I’d highly advise taking this class: Islamic Marriage: Guidance for Successful Marriage and Married Life

And Allah alone gives success.


Tabraze Azam

Checked & Approved by Faraz Rabbani