Is Having a Sex Chat with Someone of the Opposite Gender Considered Adultery?

Answered by Mawlana Ilyas Patel


If a woman never met a man and never exposed her private parts to anyone, she talked to him, had a sex chat with him, and masturbated with him. Is that lady an adulterer? If she marries a pious man later in life. Is her marriage legal and acceptable? Has she committed a major sin?


In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate

I pray you are well. Thank you for your question.

It is a sin that one had committed in the past; just like many other sins, one will be forgiven by repenting, showing remorse, and seeking forgiveness. One will not be considered an adulteress due to the sin being connected to one’s private part, and neither will it affect your marriage.

Eventually, by marrying, these types of sins will fall away by His grace, although it is always good to keep repenting from the sins of the past and supplication that one does not fall into any sin in the future.


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I pray this helps with your question.
[Mawlana] Ilyas Patel
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Mawlana Ilyas Patel is a traditionally-trained scholar who has studied in the UK, India, Pakistan, Syria, Jordan, and Turkey. He started his early education in the UK. He went on to complete the hifz of the Quran in India, then enrolled in an Islamic seminary in the UK, where he studied the secular and ‘Aalimiyya sciences. He then traveled to Karachi, Pakistan. He has been an Imam in Rep of Ireland for several years. He has taught hifz of the Quran, Tajwid, Fiqh, and many other Islamic sciences to children and adults onsite and online extensively in the UK and Ireland. He taught at a local Islamic seminary for 12 years in the UK, where he was a librarian and a teacher of Islamic sciences. He currently resides in the UK with his wife. His interest is a love of books and gardening.