How to Handle Sexual Fantasies and Discharges?
Hanafi Fiqh
Answered by Mawlana Ilyas Patel
Question
At times, my mind wanders into sexual fantasies, occasionally multiple times within a day. Sometimes, I notice a discharge during these episodes, but I’m uncertain if it is intentional or not. While experiencing these fantasies, I feel aroused, and the discharge appears thin and clear, occasionally feeling forceful. When I wipe it with a tissue, additional discharge often follows a few seconds later.
Moreover, after the emission subsides, if I prostrate, more discharge may occur unless I gently press my testes beforehand to release it. These episodes typically last for about 20-30 minutes.
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate.
I pray you are in good faith and health. Thank you for your question and for seeking guidance and direction.
You are experiencing either ejaculation of semen (mani) or pre-ejaculatory fluid (madhi), both as a result of fantasizing. In most cases, it is the pre-ejaculatory fluid that is being discharged.
You can distinguish between the different types of discharge by the details below:
- Semen (mani): a thick whitish liquid; when it comes forth with desire, the desire subsides; its smell is like pollen. One will have a bath.
- Pre-ejaculatory fluid (madhi): a thin, clear fluid that comes out during sexual arousal. It does not spurt out, and neither does one’s sexual arousal subside because of it. Often, one does not feel it coming out. One will have to do wudu each time. [Shurunbulali, Maraqi al-Falah]
Dua
Shakal ibn Humayd (Allah be pleased with him) reported I came to the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) and I said, “O Messenger of Allah, teach me to seek refuge that by it I may seek refuge.” The Prophet took me by the hand, and he said,
”اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ سَمْعِي وَمِنْ شَرِّ بَصَرِي وَمِنْ شَرِّ لِسَانِي وَمِنْ شَرِّ قَلْبِي وَمِنْ شَرِّ مَنِيِّي“
“Say: O Allah, I seek refuge in You from the evil of my hearing, from the evil of my seeing, from the evil of my tongue, from the evil in my heart, and from the evil of my seed (meaning his carnal passions).” [Tirmidhi]
Perform two raka‘s turning to Allah (Most High) and fast Mondays and Thursdays or the Three days of each Month
Marriage
‘Aisha (Allah be pleased with her) reported: The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said,
“Marriage is part of my Sunnah. Whoever does not act upon my Sunnah is not part of me. Give each other in marriage; I will boast of your great numbers before the nations. Whoever has the means, let him contract a marriage. Whoever does not have the means should fast, as fasting will restrain his impulses.” [Ibn Majah]
I would like you to go through the valuable answers and links below. You will receive guidance and direction in sha’ Allah.
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- Am I Sinful for Getting Lost in Sexual Thoughts?
- Wet Dreams and Ritual Purity: A Reader
- Distinguishing Between Types of Discharge
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I pray this helps with your question.
Wassalam,
[Mawlana] Ilyas Patel
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Mawlana Ilyas Patel has received traditional education in various countries. He started his schooling in the UK and completed his hifz of the Quran in India. After that, he joined an Islamic seminary in the UK, where he studied secular and Aalimiyya sciences. Later, he traveled to Karachi, Pakistan, and other Middle Eastern countries to further his education. Mawlana has served as an Imam in the Republic of Ireland for several years and taught the Quran and other Islamic sciences to both children and adults. He also worked as a teacher and librarian at a local Islamic seminary in the UK for 12 years. Presently, he lives in the UK with his wife and is interested in books and gardening.
