Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad
Allah gives men many wives as this is what they desire, and they don’t have to share them because they hate that. But many women like to have one husband they don’t have to share. I find that sharing a husband is treating a woman like an object and depriving her of what she desires. So that everyone can be happy, just like men get hundreds of Hooris, can women at least get one male Hoori whom they don’t share?
This way, no compromise will be made to any gender, as the man gets what he likes with no compromise and the woman gets what she wants with no compromise. Is this possible? It not then isn’t it double standard as the man gets what he wants but whereas the woman is deprived. I wish I were a man so I could get it all.
Thank you for your question. I pray that you can find the hereafter to your satisfaction and accept what your Lord has planned for you.
I don’t commend that you remain preoccupied with what you will get in the hereafter, as no one can fully comprehend what is to come, nor how one will feel. All we know is that we will be satisfied fully by the grace of Allah Most High. The most accurate description that we are given is what the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) told us: “Allah says: ‘I have prepared for My righteous slaves that which no eye has seen, no ear has heard, and it has never crossed the mind of man.’” [bn Maja] Is it possible to question the reward if we can’t imagine it?
A double standard means a set of principles that applies differently and usually more rigorously to one group of people or circumstances than another. It is a shame to claim this is the case in Paradise because Allah has not given any indication. Claiming Allah Most High is unjust is disgraceful, claiming that Allah is unfair is wrong, and claiming that Allah has such a common trait as applying double standards to His creation is an absolute lie. Is it not clear from the Quran?
Allah Most High said in the Quran, “And those who believe and do good, We will soon admit them into Gardens under which rivers flow, to stay there forever and ever. AllAllah’somise is ˹always˺ true. And whose word is more truthful than Allah’s divine grace is˺ neither by your wishes nor those of the People of the Book! Whoever commits evil will be rewarded accordingly, and they will find no protector or helper besides Allah. But those who do good—whether male or female—and have faith will enter Paradise and will never be wronged ˹even as much as˺ the speck on a date stone.” [Quran, 4:122-124]
Once we have established that a woman will not be deprived in Paradise, and the grumbling has been resolved, we can now ask the more important question: What have you prepared to get to Paradise?
Reader on Women’s Ranks in the Hereafter
May Allah Most High give you the best of this world and the next.
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqida, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.