How Do I Deal With a Father Who Complains About His Destiny with a Back Pain?

Answered by Mawlana Ilyas Patel


How do I deal with a father who complains about destiny with regards to his back pain?


In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate

I pray you are in good faith and health. Thank you for your question. I am sorry that you are dealing with this difficult situation with your father, and I pray that your father has a swift recovery from the back pain.


The best thing that you can do is communicate to your father that every illness is a test and a sign of nearness and a means of redirecting one to Allah Most High. Keep changing approaches to speak to him and get others to talk to him and reassure him.

Turn to Allah

First, continue to be patient, always turn to Allah Most High, and keep him busy with things he can do.

The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Seek closeness and be steadfast, and in all that afflicts the believer there is atonement, even a thorn that pricks him, and the hardship he suffers.” [Tirmidhi]

Wondrous is the Affair of the Believer

One of the greatest blessings of faith is that everything Allah decrees for the believer, whether in ease or hardship, will be good for him. If he experiences relief, he remains grateful and is rewarded. If he experiences hardship, he remains patient and is rewarded.

Suhaib (Allah be pleased with him) reported to the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) and said, Wondrous is the affair of the believer for there is good for him in every matter, and this is not the case with anyone except the believer. If he is happy, he thanks Allah, and thus there is good for him, and if he is harmed, he shows patience, and thus there is good for him. [Muslim]
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[Mawlana]Ilyas Patel

Checked and approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Mawlana Ilyas Patel is a traditionally trained scholar who has studied in the UK, India, Pakistan, Syria, Jordan, and Turkey.

He started his early education in the UK. He went on to complete hifz of the Quran in India, then enrolled into an Islamic seminary in the UK, where he studied the secular and Alimiyyah sciences. He then travelled to Karachi, Pakistan.

He has been an Imam in Rep of Ireland for a number of years. He has taught hifz of the Qur’an, Tajwid, Fiqh, and many other Islamic sciences to both children and adults onsite and online extensively in UK and Ireland. He taught at a local Islamic seminary for 12 years in the UK, where he was a librarian and a teacher of Islamic sciences.

He currently resides in the UK with his wife. His personal interest is the love of books and gardening.