I have learned from this shaykh since I was a little boy. This shaykh is very pious, masha Allah, and he has never done anything harmful to me or anyone. But lately people have been telling me that he dislikes me or avoids me and it is effecting me. So I went to my shaykh and asked him: “Do you dislike me?” and he said, “No. I do not dislike you.” I keep on bothering him with my doubts and I feel as if it is effecting my relationship with him.
I do not want a new shaykh because I already benefit from my shaykh and he is the one who taught me about Islam and is a blessing from Allah Mashallah. But he does have a lot of favorite students and those are the ones that tell me that he dislikes me. I know he doesn’t but I ended up falling for their lies. I am not one of my shaykh’s favorites but behind my back I know my shaykh once said that he worries about me a lot and then during the day he does put time aside to talk to me.
I was wondering if you could tell me how to make sure he does not dislike me and how to fix my relationship with him?
Your relationship with your shaykh should not be a personal one: he is not your buddy, and it does not matter whether you “like” each other.
The point of the shaykh is to direct to Allah, and help you get through the obstacles that stop you from being a true slave of Allah. As long as that is happening, don’t worry about anything else, and don’t listen to anyone else either.
Let it be just you, your shaykh and Allah, until it is just you and Allah, and then just Allah. That is the point of a shaykh and a spiritual path.
Checked and approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani.