Is My Marriage Not Halal Because I Asked Allah to Send Me a Sign If It Wasn’t?

Shafi'i Fiqh

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

Question

My husband and I were looking at a house. Everything was fine until we found minor issues in the house that could easily be fixed. But the seller eventually canceled the transaction.

Before, I made dua to Allah to only give us this house if our marriage is halal because we have argued so many times before. Now I’m worried that our marriage is not halal. I don’t know what to do, I feel depressed every day.

Answer

Thank you for your question. May Allah give you the means to find the perfect home, and may Allah put blessings and goodness in the whole process.

Halal

Your dua has no bearing on the validity of your marriage; your marriage is valid and halal. Instead of worrying about that, take the means to improve and strengthen your marriage. Also, don’t make conditional supplications with Allah, it is considered bad etiquette, and Allah will answer your dua when and how He sees fit.

Resources, Courses, and Articles

Please use the resources below:

Course Suggestions:
Marriage in Islam: Practical Guidance for Successful Marriage
Making Love Last: Prophetic Principles for a Successful Marriage

Answer Suggestions:
Prayer of Need (Salat al-Haja)
How does one gain sincerity in du’a?
The Reality and Etiquettes of Supplication: A Reader
Love, Marriage and Relationships in Islam: All Your Questions Answered

Book Suggestions:
Chapman, G: Five Love Languages Revised Edition
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Handbook of a Healthy Muslim Marriage

Article Suggestions:
What Makes A Marriage Work – Shaykh Hamza Yusuf

May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.