Are Thoughtful Conditions Before Marriage Valid After Marriage?
Answered by Mawlana Ilyas Patel
Question
What if a girl has conditions before Nikah, like if my husband does this thing before Nikah, then may this Nikah not be valid even if I say yes to it? Is Nikah valid? Some conditions are like if my husband does not do this thing after Nikah, then it may not be valid even if I agree to Nikah. Is Nikah valid?
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate
I pray you are in good faith and health. Thank you for your question and for seeking guidance.
These thoughts are entering your mind due to your anxiousness about marriage. They will not be valid.
I understand it is a new step for every young person, and anxiousness can creep in. However, don’t worry; take each step first and regularly pray to Allah Most, seeking guidance and fulfillment of one’s life needs, removal of worries, etc., then consult with your parents, siblings, and righteous friends and speak to them about your fears. See the links below.
Turn your worry to please Allah Most High, your parents, and do your best in practicing Islam and fulfilling other’s rights.
Whoever Makes the Hereafter a Primary Concern
Anas ibn Malik (Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Whoever is concerned about the Hereafter, Allah will place richness in his heart, bring his affairs together, and the world will inevitably come to him. Whoever is concerned about the world, Allah will place poverty between his eyes, disorder his affairs, and he will get nothing of the world but what is decreed for him.” [Tirmidhi]
I would like you to go through the valuable answers and links below. You will receive guidance and direction in sha Allah.
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Wassalam,
[Mawlana] Ilyas Patel
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Mawlana Ilyas Patel is a traditionally-trained scholar who has studied in the UK, India, Pakistan, Syria, Jordan, and Turkey. He started his early education in the UK. He went on to complete the hifz of the Quran in India, then enrolled in an Islamic seminary in the UK, where he studied the secular and ‘Aalimiyya sciences. He then traveled to Karachi, Pakistan. He has been an Imam in Rep of Ireland for several years. He has taught hifz of the Quran, Tajwid, Fiqh, and many other Islamic sciences to children and adults onsite and online extensively in the UK and Ireland. He taught at a local Islamic seminary for 12 years in the UK, where he was a librarian and a teacher of Islamic sciences. He currently resides in the UK with his wife. His interest is a love of books and gardening.
