Is It Permitted to Wear Lingerie All Day?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

Question

My husband asks me to take off my clothes for no reason or touch myself as it turns him on. He also asks me to wear tank tops and shorts or no pants while doing housework or sometimes just in lingerie for a whole day. I’m a bit uncomfortable with this. Is this permitted?

Answer

Thank you for your question. I see why you are uncomfortable, but it is permissible.

Requests

His requests seem like those of a newlywed, and there is nothing prohibited about what he asks you to do, especially if these are the preliminaries to intercourse. He may not ask you to masturbate yourself because that is not permissible.

Nakedness When Alone

I advise that you acquiesce to his requests, but explain to him that you want to avoid what is unlawful, which includes exposing what is between the navel and knees when alone. [f5.1, the Reliance of the Traveller] It is also disliked in the Shafi’i school to look at a spouse’s private parts without need [Ibid, m2.4.] but if he is requesting you to dress like this when he is with you, it is permissible.

Give It Time

Rest assured that this request may wear off over time and certainly must when children come around. It is a great blessing that your husband is attracted to you and fulfills his desires with you alone. May Allah give you the best of this world and the next and always keep you both connected in this way.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria, for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.