Can My Deceased Mother See Me At Her Grave?

Question: Assalamu ‘alykum. My mother has passed away. Can she see me visiting the grave or anywhere else? I really want to know. I feel restless. I go to speak to her at her grave.


Wa ‘alaykum assalam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh.

I pray that Allah forgives and honors your mother and that all those who loved her are united with her in Paradise. Amin.

Yes, there are narrations that suggest that those who visit the graves of believers will be recognized. Go to her grave, recite some Qur’an, and donate the reward of it to her and all the other late Muslims. This will bring comfort to her.

Praying for her and donating rewards of good deeds to her is the best thing you can do for her now. The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “When the son of Adam dies his good deeds cease except from three [avenues]: continuous charity, knowledge benefited from, and a righteous child who prays for him.” [Muslim]

See if you can give him charity for your mother. A charity which supports the continuous transmission of Sacred Knowledge will be most beneficial for her, along with your prayers for her.

May Allah grant you both the best of reunions in the next life.
[Shaykh] Abdul-Rahim

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Shaykh Abdul-Rahim Reasat began his studies in Arabic Grammar and Morphology in 2005. After graduating with a degree in English and History he moved to Damascus in 2007 where, for 18 months, he studied with many erudite scholars. In late 2008 he moved to Amman, Jordan, where he continued his studies for the next six years in Sacred Law (fiqh), legal theory (Usul al-fiqh), theology, hadith methodology, hadith commentary, and Logic. He was also given licenses of mastery in the science of Quranic recital and he was able to study an extensive curriculum of Quranic sciences, tafsir, Arabic grammar, and Arabic eloquence.