Is it Allowed to Fantasize Talk About Other Women While Having Bedroom Relations?
Answered by Mawlana Ilyas Patel
Question
My husband and I engage in sexual talk while we have sex. We are two very religious people, but we just get turned on at the thought of a very sexually attractive woman joining us while we are having sex.
It is not a particular someone—just an imaginary woman who enters our fantasies and joins us. I particularly get very turned on at the thought of him having sex with her. We both voice out her features and the positions she joins us in. He likes to imagine both of us playing with each other. Please guide us on this.
I feel really guilty afterward and often think about whether this is the right thing to do. My husband never looks at other women, and we never miss prayers. Is this permissible? Are we doing something haram?
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate
It would be impermissible to fantasize romantic talk about an imaginary person this way. Find alternative ways to turn on, like addressing each other’s bodily features and characteristics instead of some imaginary person. Put your efforts into each other’s body, emotions, and feelings instead of someone else.
May Allah give you the best in this world and the next.
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[Mawlana] Ilyas Patel
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Mawlana Ilyas Patel has received traditional education in various countries. He started his schooling in the UK and completed his hifz of the Quran in India. After that, he joined an Islamic seminary in the UK, where he studied secular and Aalimiyya sciences. Later, he traveled to Karachi, Pakistan, and other Middle Eastern countries to further his education. Mawlana has served as an Imam in the Republic of Ireland for several years and taught the Quran and other Islamic sciences to both children and adults. He also worked as a teacher and librarian at a local Islamic seminary in the UK for 12 years. Presently, he lives in the UK with his wife and is interested in books and gardening.
