Will a Boy Expose Me for Texting Him Inappropriate Things?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

Question

I am in university and I never committed a major sin except once, when I was 15.

I ended up liking a guy, and then all of a sudden he started being weird in the way he texted me and said extremely inappropriate things. I said inappropriate things too, like ‘I love you‘. He said sexual things, and from the screenshots I have, I see that I always told him to stop, most of the time.

This was years ago but I am so scared that I will get exposed because we are in the same community. It was the first time a guy liked me and I wanted him to like me. Do you think he will expose me?

Answer

Thank you for your question. I don’t know what he will do, but the best thing for you is to repent to Allah for this sin, forget about it and move on. Perform good deeds and be sure not to interact inappropriately with another man until you are married. Don’t live life feeling threatened or scared, you are a different person now from back then.

Ibn ‘Abbas (Allah be pleased with them both) narrates from the Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace), who reported from his Lord, the Exalted and Glorious:

“Indeed, Allah has written down the good deeds and the bad ones.” Then he clarified it by saying: “Whoever intends to perform a good deed but does not do it, Allah writes it down with Himself as a complete good deed. If he intends to perform it and does so, Allah writes it down with Himself as from ten good deeds up to seven hundred times, or many times over. And whoever intends a bad deed and does not do it, Allah writes it down with Himself as a complete good deed. If he intends it and then does it, Allah writes it down as one bad deed.” [Bukhari; Muslim]

The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) also said,

“Have taqwa (fear) of Allah wherever you may be, and follow up a bad deed with a good deed which will wipe it out, and behave well towards the people.“ [Tirmidhi]

Please see these answers as well: Reader on Exposing and Disclosing Past Sins

May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria, for two years, where she studied ‘aqida, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan, where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.