Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil
Question: Myself included, it looks so many people who practice Islam are not capable of breaking the sinful desires of the body. What could be the reason for this? How can we overcome it?
Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,
I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for reaching out to us.
Allah Most High says: “Say: My servants who have wronged yourselves, never despair of God’s mercy. God forgives all sins: He is truly the Most Forgiving, the Most Merciful.” [Qur’an, 39.53]
Only the Prophets (may Allah’s blessings and peace be upon them) are Divinely protected from sin. Everyone else struggles with the journey of sinning, and repenting from them.
Dear questioner, it sounds like you need better support in overcoming your trials. I strongly encourage that you sign up to Purify Your Gaze. This is a safe space for Muslims who are struggling with various forms of sex addiction.
We live in a hypersexualised world. In addition to that, many families have accumulated generations of unresolved psychological issues. This combination can make many people susceptible to sins of the body.
Overcoming sexual sins takes commitment, patience, support, and a lot of sincere dua. Please remember that anything is possible through the help of Allah Most High.
The conditions of a valid repentance are as follows:
[Nawawi, Riyad al-Salihin]
I strongly recommend that you come up with and commit to a plan of action to help you overcome your sexual addiction. Here are some suggestions:
Chapter on Repentance Wassalam,
[Ustadha] Raidah Shah Idil
Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil has spent almost two years in Amman, Jordan, where she learned Shafi’i’ fiqh, Arabic, Seerah, Aqeedah, Tasawwuf, Tafsir and Tajweed. She continues to study with her Teachers through Qibla Academy and SeekersHub Global. She also graduated with a Psychology and English degree from University of New South Wales.