My Son Married a Non-Muslim

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

Question: Assalamu alaykum

My son has married a white non-Muslim girl. May Allah give him guidance and put in his heart to marry a Muslim girl. Please give me some duas to recite to help my husband and I get out of this situation.

Answer: Assalamu alaykum sister,

SubhanAllah, this must be a difficult situation for you. I can see that you don’t approve of this marriage and you are trying to find a way out. May Allah give you peace in your heart.

First, which religion does she follow? Is she Christian or Jewish? If not, then your son’s marriage to her would be invalid in any case. Is a Marriage to a Non-Muslim Woman Valid? (Shafi’i)

There are some considerations in this situation. You can decide to support the couple, love them, teach them and be a good example as a Muslim for them. Or you could be distant from them, show them your anger and frustration, and try to make them miserable until they end the marriage. Which one is better for your sanity and for your relationship with your son?

Instead of fighting the situation, you can pray to Allah to give your son what is best for him and pray for his religion. The only thing that can help him in his afterlife is his religion, not what kind of wife he has. So direct your prayers toward his love of Allah and the Messenger. Ask him to take a course on personally obligatory Islamic knowledge. Ask him to read the Qur`an regularly with the meaning. Encourage him to pray, fast and go to `umrah.

Is the girl interested in Islam? She can take a course about Islam too. Offer to teach her to read the Qur`an. Buy her a translation. Be kind and supportive to her. Let her see how beautiful the life of a religious Muslim really is.

Please see the following link for the powerful du`a of a parent, I recommend that you say it every day until you gain some peace of heart. In the meanwhile, be sure to pray on time, pray tahajjud in the last third of the night, pay your zakat and make up any fasts or prayers that you missed. Eat only of the halal, make sure your income is halal and eliminate all the prohibited (haram) and disliked things (makruh) things from your life. And of course, read some Qur`an with the meaning everyday.

The Powerful Dua of a Parent
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[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterwards, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.