Answered by Ustadha Zaynab Ansari Abdul-Razacq
Can God forgive someone who committed sex out of marriage? If yes, how? How does the person seek forgiveness for it?
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
Praise be to Allah, Lord of the Worlds. May the peace and blessings of Allah descend on the Prophet Muhammad, his family, his companions, and those who follow them.
Thank you for writing to us.
Of course, it is possible for Allah Most High to forgive such a sin. Allah’s forgiveness is vast. He says, “God does not forgive association with Him, but He forgives anything less than that to whomever He wills. Whoever associates anything with God has devised a monstrous sin.” [Quran, 4:48]
He also says, “Say: ‘O my people who have been prodigal against yourselves, do not despair of God’s mercy; surely God forgives sins altogether; surely He is the All-forgiving, the All-compassionate.’” [Quran, 39:53-54]
The Steps to Repentance Are as Follows:
- Leaving the sin
- Feeling remorse
- Resolving to never go back [Keller, Reliance of the Traveller, p77.0-77.2]
If you take the above steps, with diligence and sincerity, then, Allah willing, you will be forgiven. As stated in the excellent manual of Sacred Law, Reliance of the Traveller, a fourth condition of seeking forgiveness is leaving the company of the person with whom the sin was committed. This condition is especially relevant in instances of unlawful sexual intercourse. I strongly urge you to take every step to change your environment. I do not know whether the situation you found yourself in was adultery or fornication. However, whichever it was, you need to ask yourself how and why you fell into this situation. You also need to set up a support structure so that you are not tempted to fall into this kind of situation again.
May Allah Most High grant you and all of us His vast forgiveness and mercy,
[Ustadha] Zaynab Ansari Abdul-Razacq
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
October 6, 2009 Shawwal 17, 1430