Answered by Ustadha Shaista Maqbool
I am a woman.
How can I differentiate between madhi and mani? I am always confused about when ghusl is obligatory.
Maniy in women (female ejaculation) or orgasm is when sexual fluid exits the private parts at the peak of sexual excitement, with sexual fulfillment and pleasure, and is accompanied by contractions of the organ. This requires ghusl and is impure even if done through unlawful means such as masturbation.
If absolutely no fluid exits the private parts during an orgasm, a ghusl would not be mandatory.
As for madhy, it is sexual fluid which comes out during sexual arousal, e.g. sexual thoughts, foreplay, etc. This requires wudu and is impure.
[Ustadha] Shaista Maqbool
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani