How to Seek Forgiveness from the Sin of Pre-marital Pregnancy?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

Question

I slept with my fiance. We will get married when he is able to come to my country. I had tried to get his visa so that we could get married, but now I am 8 months pregnant. I want to repent for all the Zina. I have thoughts of getting an abortion because I don’t want to lose my family. I’m willing to do it alone, but now some of my family has found out. I am seeking guidance and forgiveness from Allah Most High. I have done so much wrong and I just want to do some right.

Answer

Thank you for your question. I am concerned for your well-being sister. You seem very stressed out and you are entertaining some dangerous thoughts.

An abortion at this stage is absolutely impossible and extremely dangerous.
Pregnancy due to unlawful and illegal sex is no reason and excuse for abortion. The embryonic life form in the mother’s womb is honored and sacred even though it is a result of adultery. [Marghinani, Hidaya, 2/292].

Please don’t entertain any more thoughts about this subject and start taking steps to set things right.

Tawba

Prophet (may Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Allah, Blessed is He and Most High, said: ‘O son of Adam! Verily as long as you called upon Me and hoped in Me, I forgave you, despite whatever may have occurred from you, and I did not mind. O son of Adam! Were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky, then you sought forgiveness from Me, I would forgive you, and I would not mind. So the son of Adam! If you came to Me with sins nearly as great as the earth, and then you met Me not associating anything with Me, I would come to you with forgiveness nearly as great as it.’ ‘O son of Adam! Verily as long as you called upon Me and hoped in Me, I forgave you, despite whatever may have occurred from you, and I did not mind. O son of Adam! Were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky, then you sought forgiveness from Me, I would forgive you, and I would not mind. So the son of Adam! If you came to Me with sins nearly as great as the earth, and then you met Me not associating anything with Me, I would come to you with forgiveness nearly as great as it.’” [Tirmidhi]

Allah’s mercy encompasses all things and all He requires from you is sincere repentance.

See these links:
A Reader on Tawba (Repentance)
The Importance of Repentance – Shaykh Faid Mohammed Said

Tell your Family

Be open with your family. Until some point, the truth can be hidden, but you are past that point. You need the support and love of your family. They will be shocked and hurt at first, but it will get better with time, believe me. You can’t have this baby alone and you should ask for help.

Keep Your Distance until Marriage

You should cut off all communication with your fiance until you get married. This relationship is not permissible without a marriage contract and legally he isn’t even considered the father of the child. (He is considered the ‘reason for his existence’) Set things right with Allah and know that everything will get better. A part of repentance is to stop sinning and start doing the right thing. Try to start now.

Kindly check this information:
When is Having an Abortion Permitted?
I Am Pregnant After Zina, Do Not Want an Abortion, and Want to Repent. What Do I Do?

May Allah bless you and forgive you and bring you all together as a happy and devoted family.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqida, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.