A Phobia of being Touched

Question: My fiance has a fear of being touched? Will it go away after we get married?

Answer:

Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Dear questioner,

Thank you for your important question.

In general, one should never assume that any physical, mental, moral, or personality problem in your future husband or wife will go away after marriage. You have to be prepared to take them as they are.

A phobia and oddities are not that rare in reality, and most people have been scared by one problem in their life or the other. The issue is how big the phobia or psychological problem is.

You need to have a very frank conversation with your fiancé and get a proper picture from his/her family of what exactly the problem is. It might also be wise to consult a psychiatrist.

Please also see:
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/320763#treatment-and-coping

For your other questions, please see:

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/is-physical-intimacy-allowed-if-you-are-engaged/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/intimate-conversations-on-the-phone-before-marriage/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/controlling-sexual-desires-when-marriage-is-put-on-hold/

If you have further questions, please contact us again.

I pray this helps.

[Ustadh] Farid

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadh Farid Dingle has completed extensive years of study in the sciences of the Arabic language and the various Islamic Sciences. During his studies, he also earned a CIFE Certificate in Islamic Finance. Over the years he has developed a masterful ability to craft lessons that help non-Arabic speakers gain a deep understanding of the language. He currently teaches courses in the Arabic Language