Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad
As a teenager, I lost my faith in Islam and had a boyfriend, one whom I had oral sex with. Although no penetration was involved, I have doubts about my virginity status according to Islam since my boyfriend at the time may have had semen on his fingers before he touched my private parts.
From my understanding, one loses their virginity in Islam if penetrative sex happens. But my question is, am I still a virgin even if I may have gotten semen in my vagina via fingers? I’m deeply apologetic for the graphic details, but I suffer from OCD, and now that I’m more religious, I’m not sure if I can ever marry a religious man, given my impure status.
Thank you for your question. May Allah reward you for your sincerity and repentance and grant you a pious and loving spouse.
You are still a virgin as one’s virginity is only taken away from penetration of the male private part. After repenting, your past should stay in the past. You can marry anyone who proposes to you, and you must not tell him about your past. Allah is the most Merciful of the Merciful and reminds us in the Quran:
“Truly, Allah loves the oft-repentant, and He loves those who purify themselves.” [Quran, 2:222]
And He said, “Say: My servants who have wronged yourselves, never despair of God’s mercy. God forgives all sins: He is truly the Most Forgiving, the Most Merciful.” [Quran, 39:53]
Please see these links as well:
Will Someone Be Considered a Virgin If They Commit Fornication and Then Repent?
I Used to Masturbate. Am I Still a Virgin?
May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria, for two years, where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin and completed her Master’s in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan, where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.