How Should a Family React to a Member of the Family Marrying the Same Gender?

Answered by Mawlana Ilyas Patel


I want to ask, what if two people of the same gender marry each other and their family is Islamic? They learned that a family member got married to the same gender. As the family members are very close to religion, how should they react to this act?


In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate.

I pray you are in good faith and health. Thank you for your question.

First and foremost, they should not be disowned and take each step at a time, consult with local reliable scholars, righteous trusted people about it.

The most important and precious relationship is with Allah. This relationship conditions our relationship with his creation and, foremost, our children.

Allah Most High tells us: “O believers! Protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones.” [Quran, 66:6]

General Rule

As a general rule, we should speak to the family member with wisdom and love, as it is our duty, direct him to the masjid, to seek knowledge and attend circles of remembrance, and allow him into the family home unless it can become critical in regards to the raising and moral upbringing of our children, who are especially spiritually vulnerable and impressionable.

Remain in Contact

Keep in contact with them; maybe one day, they will change their attitude toward the proper understanding of human relationships and build a connection to keep them inclined toward you for guidance and spiritual support.

Pray Allah Most High to give one strength and patience and find ways to guide and direct them by regularly performing the Prayer of Need (Haja) and asking Him for direction and guidance.


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I pray this helps with your question.
[Mawlana] Ilyas Patel
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Mawlana Ilyas Patel is a traditionally-trained scholar who has studied in the UK, India, Pakistan, Syria, Jordan, and Turkey. He started his early education in the UK. He went on to complete the hifz of the Quran in India, then enrolled in an Islamic seminary in the UK, where he studied the secular and ‘Aalimiyya sciences. He then traveled to Karachi, Pakistan. He has been an Imam in Rep of Ireland for several years. He has taught hifz of the Quran, Tajwid, Fiqh, and many other Islamic sciences to children and adults onsite and online extensively in the UK and Ireland. He taught at a local Islamic seminary for 12 years in the UK, where he was a librarian and a teacher of Islamic sciences. He currently resides in the UK with his wife. His interest is a love of books and gardening.