I Am in Love With a Christian Man. What Should I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Question: Assalam aleykum,

I am a Muslim woman in love with a Christian man. I feel like I should tell him that if he wants to marry me, he must become Muslim. What do you think?

Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for reaching out to us.


Dear sister, you are right. Please be clear on this – your marriage contract (nikah) is only valid to Muslim man.

Please make it clear to him that you can only marry him after he converts to Islam.

It takes more than love for a marriage to be successful. I suggest that you read Before You Tie the Knot: A Guide for Couples as a way to prepare yourself for marriage.


Please perform the Prayer of Need and beg Allah to help you do what pleases Him.


I suggest that the man you wish to marry study Introduction to Islam: What It Means to Be Muslim.

I pray that Allah guides him to Islam and blesses you with a strong and loving marriage which brings you both closer to Allah.

Please see:

Love, Marriage and Relationships in Islam: All Your Questions Answered

[Ustadha] Raidah Shah Idil

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil has spent almost two years in Amman, Jordan, where she learned Shafi’i’ fiqh, Arabic, Seerah, Aqeedah, Tasawwuf, Tafsir and Tajweed. She continues to study with her Teachers in Malaysia and online through SeekersHub Global. She graduated with a Psychology and English degree from University of New South Wales, was a volunteer hospital chaplain for 5 years and has completed a Diploma of Counselling from the Australian Institute of Professional Counsellors. She lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, with her husband, daughter, and mother-in-law.