Assalamu ‘alaykum. My husband is very sexually active. Even when I am on my periods, I satisfy him with my hand. He keeps asking me for oral as foreplay but without swallowing because ingesting filth is not acceptable. I have read that anything oral is haram, and I do not want to take any step to upset Allah. What should I do?
Wa ‘alaykum assalam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh.
I pray you are well.
Your husband is correct about ingesting sexual fluids being impermissible. If this does not occur then the act is not strictly impermissible. There are scholars of some schools who have permitted it.
However, this act is generally frowned upon and strongly discouraged by many. It is certainly superior to avoid. Please refer to the other answers we have on this and the relevant section in this excellent book.
Speak to your husband. Discuss the matter with him in light of the above and your personal feelings on the matter, as there can be other considerations.
May Allah bless you with the best of both worlds.
[Shaykh] Abdul-Rahim Reasat
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Shaykh Abdul-Rahim Reasat began his studies in Arabic Grammar and Morphology in 2005. After graduating with a degree in English and History he moved to Damascus in 2007 where, for 18 months, he studied with many erudite scholars. In late 2008 he moved to Amman, Jordan, where he continued his studies for the next six years in Sacred Law (fiqh), legal theory (Usul al-fiqh), theology, hadith methodology, hadith commentary, and Logic. He was also given licenses of mastery in the science of Quranic recital and he was able to study an extensive curriculum of Quranic sciences, tafsir, Arabic grammar, and Arabic eloquence.