Where Can I Pray If My Non-Muslim Family Does Not Allow Me To?
Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad
I have a friend (female) who recently converted to Islam from Hinduism. She is facing difficulty in following the din, especially offering Salah, as her family hates Islam and threatens to end all relations, after which she would have nowhere to go, and she can’t afford that. She is at home 24 hours a day, and if she closes the door to pray, then they doubt and question her. What could be done in her situation as she loses motivation to carry on with the salah and the religion.
Thank you for your question. I am so sorry that your friend is going through this hardship, but with this difficulty will come ease, and rest assured that Allah knows her heart.
Since she is not able to pray anywhere without suspicion or harm, then she can pray in the bathroom. She should just put the toilet seat down, make sure the ground is pure, and perhaps run the shower while she prays. In sha Allah, her family will calm down over time; I advise her to keep firm in her faith and to treat them well. She should do what she is able to and learn with baby steps. There is no rush and no reason to take on more than she can bear.
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Tell her to derive strength from this verse, “O you who believe, seek help through patience and prayer. Surely, Allah is with those who are patient.” [Quran, 2:153]
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Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.