My Father Supported His Ex-Wife and Then Claimed That the Support Was a Loan, Does It Have to Be Repaid?
Answered by Mawlana Ilyas Patel
Question
My late mother, who divorced her ex-husband in 2016, supported him financially when he was ill. Years later, while she was hospitalized with cancer, he sent her money without asking. She said she returned it before her death, but it’s unclear if she did. After her passing, he found she had remarried and immediately claimed the money was a loan, demanding repayment and insulting us. Is this money a debt?
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate
I pray you are in good faith and health. Thank you for your question.
It seems that the money your father gave was a form of support, just like when your late mother supported him. Once he realized she was married, he thought of demanding it as a loan. And Allah knows best. Your mother also said before her death that she had returned the money. There is no proof that it was a loan from your father. However, if you want to clear it up, it is up to you to resolve the matter and end the dispute.
Anas Ibn Malik (Allah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said: ‘Whoever gives up telling lies in support of a false claim, a palace will be built for him on the outskirts of Paradise. Whoever gives up argument when he is in the right, a palace will be built for him in the middle (of Paradise). And whoever had good behavior, a palace will be built for him in the highest reaches (of Paradise).’” [Ibn Maja]
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Wassalam,
[Mawlana] Ilyas Patel
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Mawlana Ilyas Patel has received a traditional education in various countries. He started his schooling in the UK and completed his hifz of the Quran in India. After that, he joined an Islamic seminary in the UK, where he studied secular and Aalimiyya sciences. Later, he traveled to Karachi, Pakistan, and other Middle Eastern countries to further his education. Mawlana has served as an Imam in the Republic of Ireland for several years and taught the Quran and other Islamic sciences to both children and adults. He also worked as a teacher and librarian at a local Islamic seminary in the UK for 12 years. Presently, he lives in the UK with his wife and is interested in books and gardening.
