Question: Is it permissible for a husband to rub his private parts against his wife’s behind and between her buttocks without actually inserting it into her anus?
Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,
Thank you for your important question.
The general rule is that a man may derive pleasure from any part of his wife’s body with any part of his body with the sole exception of the anus itself. (I’anat al-Talibin, Dimyati)
Based upon this, it would be permissible to do as the questioner asks.
However, at the same time, the husband has to be wise and know his own weaknesses. If there is no barrier or the barrier is easy to move and the husband (or wife) is tempted by the idea of anal penetration, the husband should take the practical means to stop himself from doing something that may well lead to that which is sinful.
The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Whosoever has anal sex with his wife has disconnected himself with that which has been revealed to Muhammad (Allah bless him and give him peace).” [Abu Dawud] The prohibition of anal sex has reached us through mass-narration from the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace). [Sharh Ma’ani al-Athar, Tahawi]
The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) not only forbade it, but he also told us to be careful of doing things that lead to the haram. He said, “Indeed Allah has made a certain sacred preserve, and Allah’s sacred preserve is the forbidden things. Indeed whoever grazes near the edge of the preserve may well graze inside it.”
So each husband should know himself and know what permissible actions could lead to other sinful actions.
I pray this helps.
[Ustadh] Farid Dingle
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Ustadh Farid Dingle has completed extensive years of study in the sciences of the Arabic language and the various Islamic Sciences. During his studies, he also earned a CIFE Certificate in Islamic Finance. Over the years he has developed a masterful ability to craft lessons that help non-Arabic speakers gain a deep understanding of the language. He currently teaches courses in the Arabic Language.