Question: I would like to ask for advice regarding extreme waswas about purity. Is there any way to calm myself so that I can get rid of the waswas in both a practical and spiritual manner?
Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,
Thank you for your important question.
Even if one is 99% certain that one has broken wudu, one does not need to make wudu, and does not need to check (Minhaj al Talibin, Nawawi).
The Prophet (Allah bless him) was asked about a man who thinks that he passed wind in the prayer and he said, ‘Let him not leave [the prayer] unless he hears something or smells something’ (Bukhari and Muslim).
This applies to urine just as it applies to gas.
You should just completely ignore the sensation of filth coming out of you.
You should also read the following articles on OCD.
I would also personally advise you to see a psychiatrist and explain your issue to them. You are not insane or mentally ill, but what you are complaining about does seem like something a psychiatrist could help you overcome by exposure therapy.
I pray this helps.
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