Answered by Shaykh Faraz A. Khan
Question: I am confused regarding the topic of ila’. I believe that refers to the vow of abstention.
If a brother said “don’t have sex with me” or “don’t have sex with me anymore”, to his wife, would that be classified as ila’?
Answer: Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah,
I pray this finds you in the best of health and states.
Ila’ is an oath to abstain from intercourse with one’s wife for a particular period of time.
[Maydani, Lubab; Zayla`i, Tabyin al-Haqa’iq]
Such statements would not be considered ila’, since they are not oaths but rather prohibitions.
And Allah knows best.
Checked & Approved by Faraz Rabbani