What Can I Do To Make Up for the Fact That I Can’t Marry?
Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad
Question
Due to some terrible times when I was younger, I don’t really have the emotional ability to ever get married. Alhamdulillah, lust is not an issue either for me. But marriage is an emphasized sunna, and I do not want to lose the immense reward it may bring. What can I do?
Answer
Thank you for your question. May Allah compensate you for your pain and may He open doors for you to many kinds of goodness.
Other Praiseworthy Deeds
If you are not able to marry and lust is not a problem, then there are a slew of things that you can do to help this ummah. Some of the things that come to mind are:
- Caring for an orphan, or the elderly, physically or financially
- Educating yourself to work in a field where Muslims are needed
- Volunteering or participating in humanitarian efforts
- Helping Muslim organizations
- Gaining Sacred knowledge (Quran, fiqh) in order to spread it among Muslims
- Serving your parents
- Teaching the children around you, among family, friends, or at schools,
and the list goes on.
Please see these links as well:
What is the Point of Doing Good Deeds?
How Can I Make a Correct Intention So That My Good Deeds Are Rewarded?
May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.
