How To Deal With a Dua Made Against You

Question: What should I do if my husband prayed to Allah that my daughter and I die?

Answer:

Assalamu alaykum,

Thank you for your question. I am very sorry that you are under such stress from your own husband. I pray that you can both resolve your issues and treat each other with kindness, protection and love.

Du’a against one another

It is unseemly, unlawful, and contrary to the Prophetic sunna that Muslims make du’a against one another. The Prophet, may Allah bless him and give him peace, would hesitate to pray against his very enemies, let alone his companions and family members. Please see this link:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/islamic-belief/are-there-prohibited-duas/

Do not fear anyone’s du`a against you, for Allah chooses to answer what He wills and He does not abandon His pious servants. Rather, only fear Allah regarding your husband’s rights, for that, is the only thing that can harm you on the Day of Judgment, not his du`as.

Rectify your marriage

Every marriage requires help, guidance, knowledge, and determination in order to succeed. No matter how long you have been married, you will benefit from taking one of these courses:
https://seekersguidance.org/courses/marriage-in-islam-practical-guidance-for-successful-marriage/
https://seekersguidance.org/courses/keys-to-successful-muslim-marriages-practical-lessons-that-explain-the-prophetic-spirit-of-marriage/

Do your utmost to rectify your relationship with him and return his hate with kindness and respect. Continuous service, help, kindness, cleanliness, fresh food, hard work, and not complaining, arguing, or nagging will eventually win his love and respect and these ridiculous negative du`as will stop.

Please see this link as well for excellent advice:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/my-mother-makes-dua-against-me-will-her-duas-be-accepted/

May Allah give you tawfiq and bless you both to treat each other as a garment and live in tranquility together.

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.