How Can I Marry a Muslim Man Without Harming His Faith?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

Question

I am a non-Muslim girl and I want to marry a Muslim boy. We love each other. He says that he will accept me and I can keep following my faith.

I don’t want to harm his faith by making a rash decision. What should I do?

Answer

Thank you for reaching out with your question. I commend your degree of honor and respect for this young man and I pray that Allah puts love and peace between you in a way that is pleasing to Him.

Ruling

It is not permissible for him to marry you unless you are Muslim, Christian, or Jewish. If you are neither of the above, he will effectively be living his life daily with you in fornication, unrecognized by Islamic law, and any children that you have will have no right to inheritance from him. If you really care about this man, you simply cannot condemn him to this fate.

Please see more details on the ruling here:
Does Islam Allow Muslims to Get Married to a Christian Man or Woman?

Conversion

Becoming Muslim is the only way for you to marry him, or you two must walk away from this. Converting to Islam is not a difficult or mind-boggling thing, and you will find that Islam lies perfectly in line with one’s innate disposition that one is born with. Believing that there is no God but one and that Muhammad (Allah bless him and give him peace) came to fulfill that message and give us a religion that God perfected for us, with a book that has not changed since it was revealed, are quite compelling. Islam also confirms all of the previous prophets that millions of people believe in, Adam, Moses, Jesus, Noah, Soloman, Joseph, Lot, David, Zachary, Mary, Job, Jacob, Abraham, Isaac, Ishmael…..may Allah bless them all with peace.

Resources

Please take a look at these resources and follow your heart. Ask God for guidance, with an open heart, and be sure that He will show it to you.

Why Islam Is True E01: What Is Islam?
The Truth of Islam, the Qur’an, & the Prophet Muhammad (Peace and Blessings Be Upon Him)
New to Islam Reader: A Trusted Collection of Resources for Converts

May Allah guide you and your beloved to what is most pleasing to Him,
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.