How Can I Build a Strong Spiritual Foundation for My Marriage?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

Question

My husband and I would like to get closer to the Quran, feel closer to Allah Most High together, and have spirituality be the foundation of the union. Still, I’m struggling with identifying some practical means and habits to do so. May Allah Most High bless and guide you in your response.

Answer

Thank you for your question. SubhanAllah, you ask an excellent question that many couples ask as well. May Allah guide you both to build such a foundation and overcome any challenges along the way.

Summary

In essence, what you desire can be accomplished by doing a few things, in my view:

  1.  Study Islamic knowledge and Arabic together to determine how to practice Islam correctly
  2. Eliminate the haram and makruh from your lives gradually
  3. Worship together, such as praying, reading Quran, and making dhikr together
  4. Keep the company of religious families who are already well on this path. If this is not possible in your country, then travel during holidays to a place for spiritual growth.

Resources

Please see the many resources here to plan out your path to knowledge and spirituality:

How to Have Spiritual Openings and See With the Light of Faith
Are There Deeds I Can Practice Daily so I Can Be Blessed With Speed of Light at the Bridge?
What Can I Do to Strengthen and Increase My Faith?
The Importance of Study in One’s Spiritual Development – Imam al-Ghazzali
The Five Foundational Principles of Spirituality

May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqida, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.